Things Don’t Have to Be Good for Us to Be Great

I have lived in Santa Barbara, California for 40 years. During that time, I have experienced earthquakes and fires, but until this past month I had not experienced living in a war zone of fire, ash and profound uncertainty. The consequence to the spirit is a reminder that we are not in charge, that life […]

What is Sobriety?

Most of us think of sobriety and we think of the dictionary definition, the act of not drinking. While this definition is often enough for persons who are not in recovery, it is nowhere close to spanning the depth and scope of the word and its meaning to those in recovery. As a recovering alcoholic […]

Taking the Fear Out of Rehab

Rehab is something you absolutely don’t need to be afraid of. Contrary to what you might think, it’s not filled with bleak hallways and cell-style rooms where people sit in circles, shamefully revealing their stories and repenting the various misdemeanors that come with a life of addiction. In fact, many people report having very positive […]

No Shame in Shouting for Help

I wake early, sometimes very early. I have been in this habit since I was a kid. When I asked my mom in her later years if she remembers me doing this as a child, she said, “Oh yeah.” And when I asked her why she thought I did this, she answered, “You were always […]